I am a recovering feminist. Getting married in the Eighties was my first step when I changed my mind about keeping my own name. I went with logic. A long hyphenated name would be nothing but trouble over the long haul. And what does the second generation do if two people with hyphenated names marry each other?
Keeping my own name would have created problems after the children came--Is that your stepmother? Why doesn’t everyone in your family have the same last name? That’s how my deprograming began.